Here we are, one week before 2018.
Personally 2017 has been a great year for me, and I hope it had been a good one for you too.
I have learnt a lot of things this year, and I wanted to share with you the three main life lessons I’ve learnt, because I think there are important to know and to be aware of.
- I – Never expect anything from anyone
I do not say that because I was disappointed by someone this year. Far from that, but I’ve just realized that if we really had to rely on someone it was ourself. It’s maybe sad to say that because it shows that we are in a world where people become more and more individualists and less and less united, but I think that’s the reality and it’s important to know it. I think we always wait too much from people, when we should not. The best way not to be disappointed is to expect nothing from anyone.
The only person you can really trust, is yourself. That brings me to say that you have to have a good relation with yourself. Diane Von Fustenberg always says « the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. Any other relationship is a plus or a must ». And that’s so true. Don’t think that people will always be there for you. No one owes you anything, and you don’t owe anything to anyone. And that clearly means that you should not wait things from anybody. Trust me when you have this in mind, your life gets easier and you are much less disappointed. Shakespeare used to say « I always feel happy, you know why ? Because I don’t expect anything from anyone. Expectations always hurt ».
But that doesn’t mean that you have to be selfish, of course not. Above all, do not be resentful. If someone didn’t invite you to his birthday, didn’t be there for you when you needed, it’s not a reason to do the same. People don’t have the same heart as you, people don’t always have the same affection for you that you have for them. What is really important is to know who will be there and who won’t. For instance, I try to always be there and do my best for the people I love without being naïve, but I know that half of them won’t do the same, and I accept that because I don’t expect anything from them.
- II – Family is everything
This is something I always knew because my parents always told us to my sisters and I the importance of the family, but now that I grew up a bit more, I understand what they meant. Maybe you don’t always get along with your family, but trust me in every family there are problems. Whether it’s a tiny to a huge issue from a family to another, there is always something. So you’re not alone in this situation. But despite that, at the end of the day, no matter what, what counts the most is family.
You know, I don’t always get along with my sisters but it never lasts long because they are my sisters, we have the same blood, and that’s so powerful and it’s precious. That means unity, power, strength. And no one can reach you, if you are united with your family. It gives you a balance. Always protect it, never let anyone speak badly about a member of your family. And above all, respect it. My dad always used to tell me, « if you do not respect your parents, people won’t respect you ». And now that I grew up, I totally agree with him. Because if you don’t respect your own parents, who are you going to respect ? This is a value I think everybody should have: respect.
Also, be discreet, don’t air your dirty laundry in public. Anybody needs to know what’s happening in your family, and what problems you are facing.
- III – Be curious
I think I’ve always been a curious person, but it’s especially this year that I understood the importance of it. You have to be curious. There are so many things in the world to be interested in, to get to know about, to explore.
Knowledge is everything, and it’s powerful. It’s useless to speak if what you say is not based on anything, and you don’t have the knowledge on the subject.
If you have a passion, or even hobbies, you have to know about them. For instance, this year I’ve been quite interested in lots of things, so this summer, I took some of my free time to know more about these subjects. I read books, I watched interviews, documentaries, etc. I believe that you can not just say that you « like »something, you have to know at least a bit about it. And it serves a lot, it allows you to have good conversations, to be able to debate too.
For example, when I am with people who start a debate, I can intervene if I have the knowledge on the subject, if not, I listen and I learn. That is also part of curiosity.
Always be informed of what is happening in the world, that’s really important too.
Also, when you are curious, you are never bored or at least just a bit, because there is always something you want to know more about, new ideas, new projects that come to your mind, and you use your time to think about them and develop them.
I think the best way to be curious is to be open-minded, and experiences make you open-minded. There are a lot of ways of being curious, but the most important is to dig deeper beneath the surface of what is around you.
Everyday we learn new things. My father keeps telling me about life lessons, so that I don’t make the same mistakes as him and I don’t waist some of my years. But I think there is something positive about making mistakes, is that you learn something. Don’t forget, our mistakes are our best teachers.
I hope this post will serve you in the future and will make you think twice.
Finally, I wish you all a very happy holiday season and all the best for 2018!
Lots of love,